Laura How

How to Enrich Your Life

This week I’m going to share with you 5 ways you could add more fulfilment to your life.

How to Stop Being DEFENSIVE in Your Relationship

Listening to your partners complaints about you isn’t always easy and can be quite stressful, so in this video I’m going to share some strategies that will help you deal with these interactions in a more healthy and constructive way.

Why Your Wife Won’t Have Sex with You | How to FIX a Sexless Marriage

Why exactly do so many women stop having sex with their husbands? Is it due to a lack of care for their men, or is it because they have withdrawn over time because THEY don’t feel cared for? To help you work this out for your specific situation, I’ve put together a list of common reasons wives stop wanting to have sex with their husbands. The more you can eliminate from this list the better, but one or more might apply to you. I encourage you to address them consistently over the coming months and see how your love life changes.

Why Your Husband Is DISTANT & Withdrawn

When a husband emotionally checks out of a marriage, it doesn’t take too long for it to unravel entirely or for it to become at best, platonic, bland, and functional.
So why do so many good men emotionally detach from their wives? Is it due to a lack of care for their wives, or have they withdrawn over time because THEY don’t feel cared for?
To help you work this out for your specific situation, I’ve put together a list of three common reasons husbands withdraw from their wives and what you, the wife, might be able to do to invite him to want to be closer and more present with you.

Generosity in Relationships | The Antidote to Withholding

Withholding is an expression of conditional love, whereby the withholder refuses to provide their partner with an emotional or physical need unless certain conditions are met.
Withholding examples:
• Stonewalling or ‘The Silent Treatment.’
• Withholding sex or physical affection.
• Refusing offers of physical affection.
• Failing to celebrate your partners achievements.
• Avoiding deep or meaningful conversations.
• Withholding verbal expressions of love or affection.
• Refusing to comfort your partner in times of need.
If you recognise any of these behaviours in yourself, or in your partner then this podcast is for you.

How To Stand Up For Your Relationship Needs

Needing closeness with your partner and wanting them to meet reasonable emotional needs for you is not weakness or co-dependency, it’s attachment and it’s our shared nature. When our needs are consistently met by our partners, we feel secure, and our bonds grow stronger. Our nervous systems regulate, we're less stressed, and we experience better physical health and all-round wellbeing. On the other hand, when our needs are not met, our sense of security is damaged, we feel isolated, disconnected and anxious and our health will deteriorate if this is goes on. In case you're not quite sure what needs are reasonable, then here's a list of examples: Trust Commitment Affection Appreciation Empathy Friendship Satisfying Sex Compromise Respect Quality Time Kindness Generosity If any of those things are missing from your relationship then you have a right to ask for them.

Feeling Trapped in an Unhappy Marriage

If you’re stuck in an unhappy marriage with a spouse that doesn’t appear to care about you, and for whatever reason, you can’t or won’t leave then as far as I can see, you have two choices.
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We are supposed to give our partners the best of ourselves, not the worst. Exceptional relationships are created by individuals that are radiating health and wellbeing. If your partner is dysfunctional in some way, then they are damaging to you and to your family if you have children. Addressing such issues successfully is part of a healthy marriage.

Why Female Libido Matters

I would say that libido is one of the key indicators of general female health and quality of life. If you are a woman and your sex drive is low and you want it to improve, then this video is for you.
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Remember, your feminine libido is YOURS and it’s a beautiful and unique part of what makes you the woman you are. If it’s low or lost, then a part of you is low or lost and that’s not something to just accept if you truly want to live a full and rich life. It’s a feeling of aliveness and presence and it’s yearning for connection. It’s reaching out in life and pulling the right things towards you. It’s an openness and willingness to experience pleasure and it’s the motivation to give it back. It’s your mojo ladies, and sometimes you must make yourself a priority and do some work if you want to keep that side of yourself alive and kicking. Life with a health libido is better than a life without it. So, get to work ladies, you are worth the effort.

How to Handle Conflict with Your Spouse

The key to solving conflict problems in marriage lies in our capacity as a husband or wife to address them as a team. This requires commitment to truth and open communication.
In a healthy marriage, each partner understands that the relationship needs to be discussed, and each person feels safe to bring their concerns to the other. In a healthy marriage no topic is off limits. Whether it’s time together, money, division of labour, sex or anything else; every area of your shared life should always be open for discussion.
You both must be able to ask for what you need, listen with interest to what your partner needs and have tough conversations about difficult issues as often as needed. It doesn’t matter if it’s you that’s conflict avoidant or if it’s your partner. If your marriage falls short of these simple benchmarks, then YOU have work to do.
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Maintenance Sex | A Guide for Couples

Maintenance sex is the concept of having sex with a partner who you love, in order to strengthen the relationship and improve intimacy – even when you might not be in the mood for it yourself.
It is something you are willing to do for the health of the relationship, to feel connected with and to care for your partner and it is a mutual decision made by both of you. It is an effective and hopefully temporary strategy for a couple to manage discrepancies in sexual desire which are perfectly natural and normal.
It is a way to prioritise your partner and the relationship. It facilitates bonding, fosters intimacy and encourages open conversation. It should be enjoyable for both partners.